Before marriage, comes engagement.
For a lot of people, getting engaged and preparing for marriage can be one of the most exciting things that can happen in life. For others, it can be intimidating and nerve-racking.
Luckily, this article is here to tell you everything you need to know about being engaged, with all the ins and outs. Even if you do not happen to be intimidated by the thought of getting engaged, this article will help give you some clarity and tips on the best ways to go about being in the engagement period.
There is no Time Limit
The first thing for everyone to realise is that there is no set time limit for how long you should be engaged. Engagement is useful in lots of ways. For starters, it can give people a “trial” on what marriage may feel like. Think of engagement as somewhat more of an unofficial marriage.
There is simply no time limit between the moment you get down on one knee and the moment you kiss the bride. Some people may be engaged for only a few weeks and others may be engaged for decades. There really is no right or wrong.
50+ years ago, and especially during war, engagement would only last a short while. People during that period were more likely to get married at a younger age – from late teens to mid 20s. Nowadays, couples tend to get married in their 30s and onwards.
Back in the day, people tended to not really think twice about getting married – it was the only way to really do things. The engagement period would be shorter than what it is nowadays, usually lasting a few weeks to a few months. It was likely that the engaged couple would get married at some point in the same year.
Knowing When to Propose is Essential
There is, however, a wrong time to propose. Common sense is a big part to play with this sort of thing. If they are currently going through something emotional like grief, loss of a child, health trouble, etc. then proposing is something that is not ideal.
This is because engagement is something serious and should not be done “in the moment”. During emotional and stressful times, we tend to not be able to think clearly. This is because during times of emotional stress, the brain functions in a completely different manner to how it normally would.
Ideally, you should only propose to someone if you see a lifelong relationship with them. Divorce can be messy, and if you feel like at one point you two are bound to split, then maybe take a step back and try to reconsider if you have found the right person.
If you are also in the early stages of the relationship, then perhaps think about waiting to see if you are compatible with the person. During the start of a relationship, everything can feel so new and exciting. After a while, the both of you will get used to each other and then things will start to flatten out. For those that don’t know, this is known as the “honeymoon phase”.
Ideally, you would want to be with someone for at least or around one whole year before you decide to pop the question. If you propose to someone within six months of knowing them for example, you may not have been fully exposed to who they are just yet.
Knowing How to Propose – Also Essential
If you have come to the conclusion that yes, this person is someone that you would like to spend the rest of your life with, then you will have to learn how exactly to go about proposing to them.
A lot of proposals that most of us will be used to are extravagant ones; you know, displaying a message in the sky with a plane, proposing underwater, in the middle of a crowd, and so on. These are great and memorable. If you are able to pull off an extravagant proposal, you will want to be very confident that they are going to accept your request.
On the other hand, you can also propose in a more low-key and mature way. This can be like going to a significant location for your relationship – like where you two first kissed or asked each other out. You can also go to a romantic location during a holiday to do things. These would be places like the Empire State Building, Eiffel Tower, Venice, etc. But, you can also just stick to a nice place that is nearby, maybe even a restaurant that you went to on your first date together.
When you do it, make sure that it is actually at the right time too. Start by having a meaningful and deep conversation, perhaps about your relationship. Talk about how happy you were when you first met, the things that you want to do in the future and so on. Then, it’s traditional if you were to get on one knee and propose. That’s the cherry on top so to speak.
During the Engagement Period
If your partner accepts your hand in marriage, then you are both officially engaged!
Most people like to have engagement parties. This is where friends and family gather around to celebrate the engagement between you and your fiance. Most people expect a dinner setup with a few drinks and some music, obviously nothing as over the top as a wedding.
As mentioned earlier, engagement is somewhat like a trial of marriage. During this time you are able to experience what it would feel like to be committed to someone on a deeper level. Sometimes, after being engaged, a couple may want to call off the wedding because they feel like they are not suitable for one another.
This is actually not a bad thing. Think of it as something that happened for a reason. Maybe you were not meant to be with this person, and this was just the way things ended.
Conclusion
Sometimes, the whole idea of being engaged and getting ready for a wedding can actually be even more exciting than the wedding itself.
For the people doing the proposing, always remember that you will want to consider and contemplate things deeply before you make the decision to request marriage upon someone. This is something that is expected to be lifelong, and marriage is always serious business.
Try to avoid proposing to someone during a harsh time. This includes one or both of you may be going through loss, financial trouble, or other emotional situations. This is because when you are emotional you are unable to think clearly, and thus increase your chances of getting into a marriage that is not suitable.
When the both of you are engaged, this is a time to experiment with what it would be like to be married. Engagement is one step closer to being married, meaning that the two of you are now at a level that is much deeper than where you were before.
This can be one of the most exciting times of your life, and you will be able to make many memories during it. Remember, there is no time limit to how long you should and shouldn’t be engaged for.
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by Australian Diamond Brokers : August 31st 2022 Come visit our store or browse our website to find out more.