Traditionally, men have been the only ones to get on one knee and propose a lifelong marriage to their partner. However, these days many views have started to change and women have slowly but surely begun to propose to their man.
And since same-sex relationships are more common these days too, women are going to have to familiarise themselves with the ins and outs of proposing to their partner.
But why exactly should women propose to their partners? This article is going to take a good look at how to prepare, what to do and when to do so.
Why Would a Woman Propose?
Same-Sex Relationships
One of the first reasons a woman might propose is because she is in a same-sex relationship with someone. Since there is no male in a lesbian relationship, it is up to one of the women to propose.
But who should propose? It may seem a little confusing since it is not exactly a straight relationship that many people are used to. Some lesbian couples may find that agreeing on who will propose from early on will ease a lot of anxiety. This decision should be made around the start of the relationship when things have only recently gotten serious.
In a casual conversation, maybe try bringing up to your partner that you would rather have them propose down the track or vice versa. Usually, the woman that is more confident and outgoing is going to be more likely to propose – so perhaps take that into consideration.
For Couples Who Aren’t Interested in Tradition
Some couples may find that being traditional is not of any interest to them whatsoever. In the modern age, various traditions and views have been forgotten about and many couples aren’t willing to keep any practices alive.
If you find yourself to be a couple that is focused on complete freedom and expression that is loose from any boundaries or expectations, then maybe this is something to consider. It can feel fresh and new being a woman and getting on one knee to their man. Some men may be offended if this happens, as it is still not exactly a common occurrence. Some men who are old school may feel that it has been a slap to their masculinity.
Getting Ready to Propose as a Female
If you feel that you are definitely ready to propose and think that your partner is going to tolerate things well, then you should be ready to start considering how to do things.
The whole process of proposing is really no different to how a man would typically go about doing it. For some people, you may want to surprise your partner with a ring at the perfect moment. But for others, it may be good to ask for marriage, and then if they accept – go and decide on a ring together.
In a lot of cases, it is a wise idea to propose without a ring and then decide on one together. This is to make sure that your partner is going to be happy with their ring, and that it will fit their finger size (if you don’t know what their ring size is for sure).
An awkward situation would be proposing to find that your partner completely dislikes the style of the ring that has been chosen, or that it does not want to fit snugly on their finger.
Ideal Ways of Proposal
One of the best ways to propose to someone no matter who you are is in a romantic place or situation. For example, at a fancy restaurant, a significant location to the relationship, or in an extravagant way.
By the extravagant way, we mean things like giving a message from a plane, finding a ring in a clam underwater, and so on. Again, before doing any of this you’d definitely want to feel confident that your partner is going to be happy to accept your request.
If you’re not interested in going over the top and doing things extravagantly, then maybe just pick a nice location. This can be a place where you shared your first kiss, or at a romantic landmark like the Eiffel Tower.
Things to Consider
The proposal is going to take a lot of thought and consideration. This is not something that you should just do because you feel like it in the moment. Ideally, a marriage is going to last forever, so casually proposing and getting married is something that should be avoided and taken more seriously.
Getting married to someone that you have been with for only a short while increases your chances of getting divorced. Staying with someone for a long time before marriage is optimal. This is because it will give you a chance to find out who your partner really is and to test each other’s compatibility.
Once you’ve come to the conclusion that you and your partner are compatible and can see a long future together, then you’ll need to get an idea of how ready your partner is for you. Maybe start to slowly bring up casual conversations regarding marriage to one another to get a good sense of how interested your partner is.
If you can tell that they avoid the conversation or are trying to “not think too far ahead” then this can mean that they are not ready just yet. You also want to avoid proposing during a time that may be unsuitable or hard. This can mean if you both have been quite stressed from life or in an extra emotional state.
Conclusion
Proposing to someone as a female is still something that is not so common these days, but many women have started to become interested and are willing to try it out. Women proposing is obviously going to be more common in homosexual relationships.
Just like traditional proposals, before you do – there are a lot of things to take into consideration. The first thing is to ask yourself if you are actually ready for marriage. This is where you really think about the long term, and whether or not you can see yourself getting married to someone and spending a lifetime with them. You also may consider having children down the line if you haven’t already.
Next, consider how the other person may feel upon proposing to them. Try to have some casual conversations beforehand to get a feel of whether or not they are ready to settle down with marriage. If you feel things are green, then it’s good to think about how exactly you may propose and whether or not you will have a ring prepared on the spot or if you will go out and choose one with them.
Marriage can be one of the most exciting things in life, and the engagement period can even feel more exciting than the actual wedding day. Think of it like Christmas Eve – there just seems to be lots of anticipation and excitement.
Although it can be quite nerve racking, the best thing to do is to take things slow and not overthink things a little too much. In a lot of cases, you can be your own worst enemy.
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by Australian Diamond Brokers : August 31st 2022 Come visit our store or browse our website to find out more.